Marriage Prayer

Our god-son tied the knot two weeks ago. This young man was our pageboy at our wedding in 1997!!

The curious Pageboy!

The family requested that we lead the intersessions during his wedding ceremony and this gives me the opportunity to share this prayer with all of us who have made this important life choice:

Amy and Adrian are today joined together and have become one body, two different parts are joined together, and we celebrate and give thanks to our father.

Lord, we thank you for your design on how families are to function. We thank you for the roles you have set up for each member to play and perform to function properly as one family as per your design.

Thank you, Lord, for designing Men and Women differently, Amy and Adrian are different, and this is by your design. These differences are for each other to complement one another, not to compete or clash.

Thank you, Lord for your Design of family.

Father, we pray for Adrian as he takes on the role of Husband. We also remember all husbands present today.

As stated in Ephesians 5:23, Adrian is the head of his wife Amy, just as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which Christ is the Savior. 1 Peter 3:7 (NLT) guides all Husbands and, we pray for Adrian that he must give honor to Amy. Treat Amy with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.

Ephesians 5:25-26 reminds us Husbands, and we pray for Adrian that he would love Amy, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for the church to make the church holy, cleansing the church by the washing with water through the word.

Thank you, Lord for your Design of Husband.

Father, we pray for Amy as she takes on the role of Wife. We also remember all wives present today.

The greatest need of a wife is love. The greatest fear of a wife after marriage is that her husband will not love her and cherish her anymore but, take her for granted.

Proverbs 31:10-12 & Titus 2:4-5 guides a wife and we pray for Amy that she be of help to Adrian, assist, aid, support and encourage him, to prioritize Adrian and to do good to Adrian all the days of your life.
Ephesians 5:22 reminds a wife to submit herself to her own husband as she would do for the Lord. This is further explained as to why this is so in 1 Peter 3:1-2 that if your husband does not believe the word of God, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of their lives.

We thank you Lord that your word helps us to understand that submission is ultimately not between the wife and husband, but between wife and God.

Thank you, Lord for your Design of Wife.

Each one of us must love our wives as we love ourselves, and the wife must respect her husband as said in Ephesians 5:33. Sadly today, husbands and wives are under attack because we have lost the real purpose of family. Families are affected, and we are surrounded by single parent homes, divorce, wrong values, live-in or cohabitation, premarital sex and teenage pregnancy, gender confusion and same-sex marriages, addiction to substances, internet, media and violence, all that goes against healthy, godly and family values.

The great news as said in Genesis 1:27 helps us to clearly understand that the family is God’s creation, God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them, and in Genesis 2:24 we learn that a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.

Thank you, Lord for your Design of Family.

We pray Lord that you will bless Amy and Adrian in their new family life from this day forth, Amen

December 29, 2018. Cathedral of Christ the Living Savior, Colombo
I pray that every married couple will experience this level of happiness.

Her Needs!

We’ve been at a retreat that opened a whole bunch of stuff we never knew! Its been 21 years and I had no idea that the 3 most vital needs for her was Affection, Conversation, Honesty and Openness!

Her Needs

The more I dwelt on this, the more I was made aware that the greatest barriers I was experiencing was because I was not making an effort to understand her needs! As all marriages, we have unresolved conflicts and we take each other for granted! Honestly I get busy with my work and when I am home, I probably prefer watching TV or be on my cell phone. Past experiences sure brings about a conflict and we end up being so bitter!

The more I think of it the more I am made aware that the reason I have barriers, its because I have not been willing to understand what her needs are! And so I am making this tremendous effort to mend the Gap, why because I know and have experienced that ignoring the barrier widens the gap between us!

We are learning (after 21 years!) to Show Genuine Concern, Build Our Relationship, Demonstrate willingness to always Forgive and ask for Forgiveness and to be Quick to Listen, Slow to Speak and most importantly, Slow to Anger!

I am making a sincere effort to take some Action steps now, I can try, I know that if I work at it, it will work! I have never done this before but its better late (after 21 years) than never!

Hard Action Step #1 – I am trying to be loving when I speak. Those who know us know that I jump, I react, I am not calm, I am impatient and the list is endless. But I am conscious that I have to take this hard action.

Hard Action Step #2 – Speak the truth always and be honest. I do not need to elaborate, I have failed in this area but I have to make a very hard action step for the future.

Hard Action Step #3 – No unwholesome words – words and language that I know put down and destroys the spirit of my spouse, I am ‘holding brakes’ now, tough…tough….very tough.

Hard Action Step #4 – Go on a ‘date’ every week!! Never done this for the past 21 years!! Yes, its true and we have begun!